Monthly Archives: March 2014

Tips to Happiness

1.Enjoy life now

because when are you going to enjoy it? Enjoy life as it is because you never know what’s going to happen tomorrow, make the best of everyday as there will never be that same moment and time again.


2.Mind your own business

it’s true, too often we look into other peoples lives or judge others based on superficial things. What’s it to us? It shouldn’t matter to us at all because it isn’t our business. I admit if I get angry at someone I will pick at their wrong doings & ect but you 2014 is a new year and it’s time to get over talking behind peoples back or getting into business that doesn’t relate to us.


3.Use your mouth carefully

We have TWO ears and ONE mouth  for a reason. (Sorry didn’t mean to scare you there with the caps.) Listen and then talk because once you put it our there, you can’t take it back. Whatever you have said either good or bad will be remembered, maybe not word for word, but people will remember the feelings associated with what you had to say. We can either use our mouths to praise, encourage, or to compliment instead of cursing, gossiping, or bullying others. We have the power to cut out our voices but also raise our voices for all the right reasons. Use your mouth carefully and ask yourself, is what you’re going to say, going to hurt someone or that you might regret it? Or even next time you’re going to gossip about someone, ask yourself, is there somebody talking about  me right now? I hope that helps. I know it’s hard especially with the mouth as even I say things that I’m not supposed to, but you know everything takes time and work. I’m going to keep trying until all that comes out of my mouth is praise and goodness!


4.Live life with appreciation

Appreciate the little things in life because one day they might just disappear. Too often we take thingsfor granted without really appreciating  the people or the actions they do for us. Or we look at things we want but don’t really look at the many things we take for granted that other people around the world absolutely need, (shelter, water, food, love,ect.) Next time you really want something, ask yourself,” Do I really need this, or is it a want?” Appreciation is key. Appreciating things in life makes you happy. And happiness is great, I mean who likes to be angry all the time? Remember when life gives you ten reasons to cry, find one hundred more reasons to smile. Or even when life gives you lemons, make lemonade;D A tip: every time you’re sad or feel down, right a list of what you are grateful for or the things that you appreciate. Trust me by the time you’re done, you will feel so much better!


5.Stop comparing

There is no one like you! Seriously, you ARE unique and NO ONE can change that. Never before is there someone like you and there never will be someone like you. So why do you want to change yourself? You are you and nothing can go past that. Your flaws are someone else’s blessings. Don’t compare yourself with others because everyone has their attributes and their shortcomings. We are all good at our own things and we all have our own talents. Comparing yourself with other’s won’t change anything, maybe the only fact if you’re comparing to improve yourself like running times or academics.


6.Let go of the past

Seriously let it go! The past is the past and no matter how much we regret our mistakes, we can’t change anything now! Seriously, we can’t. And one thing to understand is that without all the mistakes, failures, regrets, we would not be where we are today, we would not be the person we are today. Without all those choices in the past, then you might not be here, you don’t know where you would be!

 

7.Do yourself a favour and forgive

Forgiving isn’t just for the other person. It’s for yourself, because when you forgive, it’s your own choice to release yourself from all that anger and resentment. You say  it’s time to move on and pave a new start. You truly are doing yourself a favour because holding a grudge does nothing but gnaw at your insides.


8.Love yourself

Love yourself, because then if you don’t, who will? First you need to accept yourself, if you want others to begin accepting you. And going back to #5 you are unique and special and wonderful and you. There are people who love you for a reason. And you yourself are amazing in every single way. And plus it’s good to spread the love, once you’re done loving others, start loving yourself for a change. Haha!


9.Accept that not everyone will like you

It’s true some people just don’t like other people, no matter what they do. You can be the nicest person in the world and there will still be people who hate you. I don’t know why?;( But it’s true. There can be the most succulent piece of watermelon on a sweltering summer day, but some people will still hate that piece of watermelon. Don’t change yourself for others and don’t be a slave to other people’s opinions. As the people who really love you, love you for you! No matter how much you’re going to change for other people, some people will still hate you. It’s a sad fact of life. So it’s time to toss your hair (if you have short hair or none it’s fine, just toss your head,) and walk on with life. It’s time to deal with the fact not everyone will love the fabulous you, and ha that’s their problem to deal with! Remember don’t get caught up with everyone’s opinions, there will always be haters. <-I am working on that, because I care too much on how other’s think of me;(


10.Give out more and receive more

When you give more, you do receive more. Maybe you won’t receive material possessions but so what? “The best and most beautiful things in life cannot be seen or touched, they must be felt with the heart.” -Helen Keller. I volunteer so much and sure I don’t get anything back, but my whole life is changed. That’s the most important thing. Volunteering has taught me how to give compassion and how to receive it. From now on, I will never be the same! If you have talents, share them with the world! If you have money, then donate! If you have skills or time, give them back to the community! Try volunteering this year or trying something new this year. Trust me helping other’s is the best gift I have ever received.


11.Stop worrying

A little stress is fine sometimes. Some even say it’s healthy. But an overload is bad! You need to stop being a worrywart because worrying does nothing, it doesn’t change anything either. You need to take deep breaths, take a jog, relax in the tub with your favourite book, or meet up with friends. Take some time off and really get to enjoy life and just stop worrying. Take a deep breath and carry on;)


12.Teach to learn. Learn to teach. 

Often we learn the best when we teach others. So again share your skills and talents with others, so not only will they learn but you will understand whatever your teaching even better. This year learn to teach as well, because teaching is a lifelong skill. We are always learning from our mistakes, from others, and most importantly from others.

 

 

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The Great Gatsby- F.Scott Fitzgerald

I have many favourite books, but every book I like is a bit different in some ways. Just like how I have different friends; some friends I hang out with, some friends I study with, and some friends I just talk to about my problems with.

 

The Great Gatsby wasn’t a book that kept me flipping pages through the night, it was more of a smooth read without tons of action or adventure really. So why did I like it? After reading some books from the past like Pride and Prejudice, and Jane Eyre for instance. I fell in love with the author’s style of writing. It isn’t something that I typically see anymore. Mr. Fitzgerald’s writing is spectacular. You think to yourself, did he just do that, yep he definitely did! Sometimes his words don’t make sense at first, but when you finally get the meaning from that unique pattern of his, you’ve become mind blown.

 

What I liked best about the book is the way it being told. The story is told through Nick Carraway, who in my opinion is a great raconteur. Having the story told by a person that takes a step back on things, is a breath  of fresh air and something quite different.

Some other things I liked was the symbolism. The focused importance on the eyes brings to reality the many themes of the book and themes that occur in modern life today. Fitzgerald’s use of symbolism, is what truly makes the book interesting.

 

Obviously, the book has so much more to offer. But I suggest you read it for yourself before I give too much away. While you’re reading, I will be slowly trying to decipher the book again. So enjoy!

My Journey to Success

When I was younger I was taught to dream big! If I didn’t wouldn’t I fall short? If people didn’t dream, then would we be where we are today?

 

Everyday when I sit by my parents in the car at a red light, in the drizzling rain, or a scorching day, I think about all the cars and the pollution that is caused from idling at stop signs, red lights, border crossings, and traffic jams….Things like these always pop up in my head…

 

What should I do?

 

Do I live life eating, sleeping, and taking from the world, but never giving back?

I don’t want to live like that. Adding garbage to the landfills, adding pollution to the beautiful air everyone breathes in, or wasting electricity and energy that someone else could use.

 

I want to make an impact on the world, I want to have bright ideas that will not only benefit myself but benefit others for the greater good.

 

I want to make other’s live’s easier, because I am so blessed to live in Vancouver, have a loving family, and have my basic needs and sometimes wants met on a regular basis. I have all these blessings and I feel obligated to make a change in this world. By helping others, by changing the cycle of poverty, by helping with the process of finding cures to incurable diseases, to make sure everyone knows that they are loved so they don’t have to feel depressed, lonely, or finding love in the wrong places.

 

What our world needs love. People who feel obligated to give. People who care. People who want to dedicate their lives to help other people.

 

I don’t want to be a person that needs recognition, what I want is to know that I have changed someone’s life for the better.

 

I want to do all of these things, but I know that many of the worlds problems come from a lack of education, money, and love.

 

I hope that I can work the hardest that I can and do the best that I can to get a good education so I get a better understanding of how I can make a change, an impact on the human race.

 

That is why, I want to share my goal with the world at least right now… once I share it, I know it will be a reality, and that I will need to work hard to make my dreams come true.

 

I really want to go to Harvard someday, which is highly unlikely, but I’m still willing to try my best. And if I don’t make it, at least I tried, and won’t live my life with regret or ever wondering what would happen if I had tried.

 

My blog was created in 2012 because I wanted to go to Harvard. That was my definition of”success.’ But it is so much more than that. So many people along the way tell me that it’s too hard, and that it can’t be done. But after meeting two guys named Alex and Evan who attend Harvard, a spark ignited inside of me. It gave me a hope, a sense of determination to try again. Since 2012, I tried my best and did extra work but I didn’t start studying for AP’s or SAT’s and now when my dream has become so much more clearer, I understand that it’s only going to be an uphill climb.

 

I’m not doing it for myself, I’m actually not sure who I’m doing it for. But Harvard is just a goal of mine that’s in the way of me trying to make an impact.

 

Hopefully in a year, when I reflect back on this post and on my blog on general, I can say that I did the best I could do.

 

Quote from myself a month ago, great words of advice:”When you look back and realize that there’s nothing else you could have done. That you’ve tried your hardest, and given it your 110%, then that’s when you can say,” I told you so!” You proved them wrong. You proved the people who doubted you, the people who didn’t believe in you, that you are capable of love and success. That you are capable of anything, when you work so hard, that no one can deny your capabilities. So don’t let them get to you, you are so much stronger than that. Work your butt off, because when the day comes, it will be totally worth it”

 

How to get better at ….PUBLIC SPEAKING

Public Speaking

1. Practice!!! There’s really nothing else you can do. Having a fear of public speaking means you need to get so used to it, that you aren’t as scared as you were before. If you realize that you aren’t so scared than you used to be, than that’s a good advancement, BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!

2. Force yourself into opportunities into speech contests or joining Toastmasters. As at the end of the day, the only one who’s benefiting is you. You won’t like it, but once you’re done it, you’ll understand that you’re one step closer to conquering your fear.

3. Practice in front of people you aren’t afraid of and slowly add people you don’t know/are afraid of into your constructive criticism group.

4. Practice in front of the mirror really helps. You can not only see your posture but your eye contact. Eye contact is vital!

How to get better at…….WRITING

WRITING!

Writing

1. Read! Reading will not only broaden your horizons but you get exposed to so many different colours of the infinite kaleidoscope of literature in our universe.

2. Practice! Even though practice may not bring results right away, it is better than not practicing at all. Keep a blog! By keeping a blog and making a goal of doing a post each day, will help push you to sharpen your writing juices each day.

3. Relax! An important part of writing is to be mentally focused. You don’t necessarily have to be peaceful when you write, because there are plenty of times that I write when I’m shaking with anger, or wringing out with tears. But it’s good to focus all your attention when writing as it’s hard to write something good with lacking attention.

4. Inspiration; often writing comes hand in hand with writer’s block. Sometimes in order to get the juices flowing, certain people have different methods to make it dissipate. By taking a hot shower, drinking a smoothie, taking your mind off of what you were writing, go for a lap or two, or jog around the neighbourhood will bring you back to yourself in no time. A kick of endorphins always helps!

5. Peer editing; get someone to read your writing and give you feedback. Obviously everyone likes different styles and write different styles, but it’s good to get constructive criticism to get better.

6. Enjoy it! If you’re forcing yourself to write, sometimes it may be hard to write. It’s good to force yourself to write if you are meeting a goal. But if you don’t like writing, maybe try figuring out why you don’t like it. To really excel at something, you need to love it. You’re passion is what get’s you to success at the end of the day. If you don’t like something, it’s really hard to push yourself that your mind and heart just won’t do.

7. Attend writing conferences, writing circles, or clubs at your school that involve writing. Getting that extra practice is always good. It doesn’t always cost money. Usually your local library will have free writing programs or literacy circles. You can even get together your own writing circle and meet up somewhere, ( coffee shop, library, your home, even Ikea!)

Reading my own blog

Some days when I can’t write. Like whatever I write turns into mush, I read some of my most viewed blogs and I finally understand. I understand the post I wrote a few months ago so much more then when I was writing it. My own blogs give me inspiration and perhaps I realized that I’m not writing for others, but for myself. It’s my hobby, and a blog is a great way to keep track. A blog is a great way to document my process and force myself to write each day, ( I haven’t been doing that recently, sorry, time to get back on track.) When I’m down, and I read my own blog, I feel a lot more content and relieved. I get a burst of reassurance and inspiration. I hope that my blog does that for you, because all I really want to do, is to make someone’s day better. If I have, message me through my tumblr or just comment. As your comments would really motivate me to keep writing each and every day!

Life isn’t a matter of milestones but moments,” – Rose Kennedy

What does life mean to me? This is perhaps one of the most difficult questions I ask myself.  But when I learn to reflect on my own life and how it has shaped me into the person I am today, I begin to see that my life isn’t all successful, but full of a variety of different moments. Success isn’t what defines me, but perhaps my life is defined but many moments, not just milestones.

 

Moments pass and go, but some will always be stained in one’s memory. There are the good and the bad, but when one begins to look at the fall backs or failures in life. The blurriness focuses, and the failures aren’t so bad. It’s those moments, that I wanted to give up. Those days when I wanted to throw away all that I had worked for, because in that moment in time, I thought, why does it matter? When times like those pass, and I get back on my feet again, I learn to move past the pain. To move away from the past and focus on my future. The past cannot be changed but my actions that come after are controlled by me. Those moments have taught me lessons that cannot be taught by anyone else but only by myself. Anyone can help me stand up again, but at the end of the day, I’m the one who’s going to be fighting the battle. I, myself, need to learn a lesson. A lesson that cements these scars and moments onto my nose. Sometime’s I will forget and look past it, even though it’s right under my eyes. But, we are always learning. We are always having moments. We need to learn to embrace the obstacles, and breathe it in, let it go. As when we take a look back into the past, we hope to believe that those moments really shaped me who I am, it wasn’t just my successes. As my successes were a result of those moments, the failures, and the hardships. It isn’t just about climb and the failures, but also the good moments.

 

When one compares milestones to moments, there is a slight difference. Moments can be both amazing, or extremely terrible. But milestones are a big step. A leap from something, to somewhere. And it’s true, as humans we aren’t always making leaps. We could be just living in the moment, and enjoying ourselves. Taking in the love, and letting it go. Enjoying the time with our friends, and making new connections. My moments with families, and friends are the ones that I want to take with me, when I am ready to leave. I don’t want to take away the milestones, because moments are not milestones. It can be one thing to achieve my goal of impacting someone’s life for the better, but it can be a totally different thing when I am actually living in that moment, and actually experiencing the labour many children go through on the opposite end of the world. Those moments where I am with the people I love who appreciate and recognize me as me instead of the people who recognize my achievements without really knowing why I’ve done what I’ve done, is the most important to me. As at the end of the day, without my milestone’s I could probably still live on just with less things to look forward too, but without my moment’s, then what is the point of my milestones?