Monthly Archives: August 2014

Should Grades be based on effort or achievement? ; An Essay

Grades are generic. It is quite ironic how every student is different yet put to the standard by a single letter. The truth being told, grades do not accurately describe or even reflect a student’s progress, achievement , or improvement. Each school is different in how they assess grades from different teaching techniques, different teachers and even the school curriculum. However, when placing grades as an importance to a student’s future, attention should be drawn to effort due to the distinct attributes of each school.

In the real world, diligent people who are not necessarily geniuses are the people who actually sculpt the world into a better place. Schools build the bridge between childhood to adulthood. A vital connection that should point out that even lazy students with potential aren’t necessarily ready for the real world or prepped up for success by their brains, but also their attitudes and charisma. Take for instance Cary Firoina, a woman who worked diligently, she was later recognized for her unwavering determination and became the CEO of HP. She wasn’t necessarily the best candidate for the job, but her willingness to work hard no matter the obstacles led her to get her job done. The will to go above and beyond allowed success to find her.

At school, students who work hard but do no achieve good results and grade begin believing that in order to succeed in school or life that potential or smartness should be engrained in their brains when they are born. As no matter how hard they push themselves they can’t seem to achieve the grade or goal they might eventually give up. Hardworking students with limited achievement are often discarded by teachers. Their drive and determination forces students to work even harder if they really want to succeed. Even though they ay not be the best, they push themselves in the correct mindset, to work even harder. Many examples f students who weren’t necessarily excellent in the classroom led them to their success in the future.

The Heart of Giving

I grew up as a normal kid in a low income family. Living in a cramped up apartment, where both parents were redoing university in Canada and trying to build a better life for our family. Many sacrifices were made, and my parents had to leave behind the life of luxury and from having things done for them, to now finding out how to survive in this foreign land called Canada. I called myself normal, because as a small child, I had my distant dreams of meeting Cinderella or flying on a red carpet. But I did not have the depth of understanding of what the real world was like and how much difficulties my parent’s really went through to achieve a life that we now have.

I had heard now from my mother as she recalls those first difficult years in a new life. How she and my father worked labor jobs well into the night all the while trying to obtain their master degrees and taking care of me. Living in a beaten down apartment, where everyone lived in a one small room, I was happy. I had my building blocks and that was it. As a child, I never knew my parents didn’t eat sometimes, I just had thought they weren’t hungry. We were still happy. Not because we didn’t let the lack of money affect us, but because of the people around us who were willing to help. A family friend gave us their car that they did not use anymore, and others donated clothing and shoes for my family as well. We understood that money could bring happiness much later in life, but during that time, I think those moments were the most joy filled moments of my life.

I think one of the greatest life lessons I learned was when I had so little. Life taught me to be humble, and take nothing for granted. I still remember a foggy day that is embed into the back of my memory. It was a few days before a birthday of mine and I believe I was five year old. Walking hand in hand with my mom and dad along the underground parking lot of Zellers, we came upon a man. This man wasn’t any different than me, I thought. He was an ordinary man. I could not differentiate between people, because judgement was not part of my visual process. The man that I now recall from my memory was obviously very worn down, and fragile. At that time, the man didn’t explicitly ask my father for money, but as I watched my dad walk ahead of me closer to the man, he gave him some coins. After that quick exchange, we began to close in on the opening doors of the store, and right in front of me, was the birthday gift, I would totally die for. A big cardboard box full of Hello Kitty umbrellas were beckoning me to take on home.

“Mommy, can I have one?” I looked up to her, as my mom and I approached the big box.

“Hmm you’ll have to ask your father,” she pursed her lips and gave me a slight smile.

As my father came closer to me, I had asked him, and I could tell there was hesitation. Feeling disappointed, I walked back to the big box of umbrellas and stood there, lightly touching the Hello Kitty figure attached to the handles. I could here my mother arguing with my father that it was my birthday, and all I wanted was an umbrella. I also heard that my dad thought the umbrellas were really expensive. As my mom began arguing with my father, she mentioned the fact how he gave money to strangers but was not willing to buy a birthday present for his own child.

Reflecting on many of these similar actions my dad did for many strangers, I began to realize the fact that during the times when we had so little we gave the most because we knew what it was like to be in the same place. Our family still gives time and money, and donates things, but we are more distant and understand less of what others go through.

It is now a decade later, and I have a little sister. Many things were bought for her, and the newer Hello Kitty umbrella also landed in my sister’s hands without much thought from both of my parents. As we became a middle income family, we still weren’t as rich as many of our friend counterparts, but we now had more food and some luxury items. Since my sister was born in a different income level than I was, she hasn’t learned the importance of giving yet. For me, even though I know if my family squeezed tight earnings, they would be able to buy me a new iPad that I needed for a school course. However, I took that upon myself to not waste money that I knew both my parents who were workaholics took a lot of time to earn. I entered many writing contests and contests where there were prizes that included scholarship money. Through many of the contests, I was able to secure spots that gave me money or even prizes like an iPad and Kobo. Even though we have money, I try not to waste my parent’s money. I make sure that everything I receive is earned through my own abilities. And this has taught me to be humble, and to have a compassionate heart. It has allowed me to feel what it’s like to actually earn things that you deserve instead of having them given to you. Furthermore, it has allowed me to develop an aching soul that loves to help others~

What it really means to be a leader

Have you ever been so passionate about something that you would undeniably sacrifice yourself to protect that thing? 

Or have you cared so much about that person, thing, or cause that you didn’t even think about your own benefits but only theirs?

All these things are qualities of a great leader. You are a beautiful masterpiece. We, mankind, are meant to create impacts on our world. And you know, you ARE a leader. Why? You might ask, no, I can’t be a leader, I know this guy and he’s a leader. Or you might say, pshhh, me a leader, I’m absolutely petrified at the thought of public speaking.

But you know what? You can push those thoughts out of your mind. Because you might not know it, but you ARE passionate about something. It’s deep under the crevasses of your loving heart, but it’s there. There’s that one thing, you undeniably live for everyday. Or you might be thinking right now that life isn’t worth living. And that’s all right, I’ve been there, for longer periods and shorter days, but the one thing I want to tell you, is that you can do anything, and you will go do it. 

We as human beings have the unlimited resource of the power of our minds. If we tap into all the potential power from our mind, we can achieve our goals, we can make our dreams come true. 

You know what, I don’t want to see another person suffer from something they cannot control, losing many family  and friends to cancer makes me really angry but determined about the topic of cancer.

Is there something in your life that you care about? Have you ever considered just by caring about that enough, and taking action to stop something from occurring, or progressing something that you are a leader?

I learned this week from the Global Leadership Summit, that a leader isn’t someone who’s just good at public speaking, or manages other people, or makes the best decisions, or moves the company forward, and you get the picture. 

A true leader is a  person who is so passionate about what they love, and is willing to sacrifice themselves and go the extra mile to protect the very vision that they hope to see.
And leadership is the action of unlocking potential in others, and leaving a beautiful legacy behind. It’s not management but taking initiative in your dreams/aspirations to not only help make the world a better place but to care for others and help them be better people. It’s all about serving others, not for your own selfish reasons.

So what legacy are you going to make on the world?

When your dash between the date you were born to the date you die, is written on your tombstone, what will people still remember that is yours. That something that will not perish, or rot away like the perishable flesh of our bodies. But what legacy will you and must you leave behind?

You are capable of anything. And I tell you, I was lucky to be inspired, but I know my job is to inspire someone and make someone happier because I was unhappy for a really long time and I don’t want anyone else to feel that. So I’m telling you, I believe in you, I know that you can go make a difference in the world and be a leader. A leader who cares, a leader who impacts, a leader who loves.

You, YES, you! Whatever it is that you have abandoned as a dream, or pushed away the thought due to life’s circumstances, go pursue it right now. Time does not wait for anybody! And you know if you think it’s too late, it’s not. Whenever you put your mind to something you really want to do that is for others, it will really work out. Maybe not the way you think or want it to work out, but trust me things always have a way of working out. 

xoxo,

Cecilia

Wuthering Heights

Wuthering Heights! I have fallen with the Bronte sisters! Emily Bronte’s writing style is undeniably exquisite. Even though the language is Old English, I still can visually experience what she wanted to portray. The writing is something in itself that must be greatly admired. And then the plot line, now that was totally something out of the world. I never knew someone like Heathcliff could make me root for him but also want me to strangle him at the same time. Bronte carved out dynamic characters that all played an important part of this book. Their character development may not have improved but it definitely progressed in their own separate ways. Heathcliff really confuzzled me, and I think that’s what will really make an imprint on my mind even after a long time. I have never ever pictured a person like Heathcliff. The way he loves is completely different. The way that he loves is so powerful yet so fragile, so beautiful, yet so wretched. All the characters were amazing. The plot was a bit slow in the first part of the book, but it started to pick up near the second half and woah just woah, a classic like this was making me flip pages like mad!

i totally recommend this book! Sure at times it can be boring, but the writing style and technique is definitely something to learn from!

Hard fought leadership with Bill Hybels

Sometimes when leaders reach a certain success point with their vision they care less about the spirit of the team.

Now really think about that, have you every doubted a team members ability? Or maybe you’re the one that’s being doubted on? 

Leaders can begin to doubt their team members’ determination. They start to believe that their team doesn’t care as much as they do, and this disconnects leaders and their team. The leader should always think that they might care too much instead of concerning themselves with the fact that others that are caring too little.

Don’t get so vision fired that you start to hurt the people around you who are trying to help. Don’t treat them as machines, treat them like people. Sometimes the kindest form of management is the truth. So if you doubt someone’s ability tell them nicely, or if you’re feeling that you’re doubted on, then maybe talk to the person who doubts you. 

With meetings, I learned that there are three M’s

M- Move ahead, keep focusing on your vision, and get over the obstruction and move on.

M-Modify Plan ( tweak something to get the desired result)

M-Motivate them (bless, inspire, than your team, and foster an environment with inspiration)

If you challenge people to do the best, they’ll listen to you because you believe in them.

 

Leaders: prepare next leaders for the next generations ( create an everlasting legacy)

Best way to develop leaders:

-put them in a high challenge role

-assign them to a short term task and assess how they do

-give them a deadline with real time feedback

-provide coaching/mentoring

-offer them classroom/seminar workshops

Give people challenging tasks ( involve real pressure and a deadline and you should evaluate the end product to see if they are able to do tasks.)

Working with a wide variety of people, not only benefits you but others.

Give other leaders a chance and give them those tasks to see how resourceful they are.

2 types of leaders 

1)Higher Lynn Tipes: These leaders don’t care. They will jump away when hardships come, and are short term ladder climbers. They only care about leadership revolving themselves. They might be fueled by the wrong reasons: fame, money, etc.

2)Owner types: Leaders who care and would put themselves in danger to see the well being of whatever that they care about. These leaders actually care about the bigger vision, and are willing to sacrifice themselves to make sure their vision achieves success. They are fueled by their own passion and compassion. These are the leaders that leave a legacy.

Organizations and businesses can not be built on leaders who don’t care, they won’t stick long enough, they have short term mindsets. 

But the people who do care, they look at things in a totally different perspective. They fuel from giving their lives to something better, the greater good. 

Live a life that leaves something beautiful behind. 

When your time is done, I ask you, what legacy do you want to leave behind?

“The greater the vision, the greater the price-tag. ” So leaders need to develop endurance strategies to haul them over. Give yourself time to recharge and do solitude things. It’s a time where you aren’t responsible for anyone’s life but your own. (Quiet time is extremely important, everyone needs it.) 

 

 

The Most Dangerous Mistakes Leaders Make… with Patrick Lencioni

Being a leader is a great thing, but sometimes there are certain things you should be careful of!

First of all why be a leader? 

You want to be a leader because you care, you sacrifice yourself for the good of others without any return of investment( money, time,etc.) You care so much about your cause, that is the most defining thing of being a leader. 

1) Becoming a leader for all the wrong reasons (notoriety, power, fame),

-this can often lead you to lose all the energy and goodness tapped in your heart that you start to hurt others, and not help the people you wanted to help in the first place.

If you are being a leader for yourself then start to change things around, and actually focus on what you want to get done, what your cause is about, and start focusing on others!

Leadership is basically serving others, it is not others serving you.  If you just lead and manage people, all it is, is economics. I manage you, I’m the boss, so I get paid the most. Leadership is not like that. Leadership is totally different.

2) Failure to embrace vulnerability. 

When you fail to be vulnerable, you can destroy trust with the people around you. You’re human, so be human! It’s okay to make mistakes and be genuine about it. Acknowledge your mistakes and that you need help as a leader, and people will help you. No one’s perfect, and that’s one of the main parts of being human, imperfection. 

As a leader, you have to keep bettering yourself, it’s always about self-improvement and the improvement of others. 

*Tip: More often than not, it’s better to take the risk. 

If someone you know isn’t doing a good job being a leader, be genuine about it, and tell them how they can improve (nicely.) It will help a lot in the long run:)

3) Making leadership too important.

Identity can be wrapped into leadership so much that you lose sight of who you are. 

Make sure you put your priorities in order. Family and friends should be ahead of your work place, or leadership role. Your leadership role is important, but when it comes to the end of the day, they’re the most important people. So make time for them!

 

All three mistakes come from PRIDE. 

Learn how to be humble and be the definition of HUMILITY.

Humility: recognizing your strengths/weaknesses but not letting you treat everyone else differently.

 

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